This thing with Words is kinda interesting, right? By using them we can like communicate with each other and tell that other person how great and handsome they are. Cool right?
For me as a coach a need to think about both WHAT I say, but also HOW I say it, which I also try to consider in my normal life as well.
Therefor I thought I’d share four word-hacks which I find interesting och try to use in my everyday life. Some of them are inspired by Henrik Fexeus who also seems to like words. If you know him you will probably recognize some of this and if you don’t you should stop reading this and find out. I hope you will find this as interesting as I do!
Do we understand each other?
Compare the phrases ”Do you understand?” and ”Did I explain this clear enough?”
They have about the same meaning, but the difference is that in the first one it depends on that the person that I talk to is smart enough to understand. Some people might feel a bit stupid when they have to say ”No, I didn’t understand”.
In the second version it’s up to me to explain clear enough. If the other person doesn’t understand it’s because I explained it in a way that was unclear and therefore I have to say it in another way.
This is something I try to apply mostly when I coach grouptraining sessions, where it can be tough to say in front of others that you didn’t understand and hopefully it’s easier to say ”Could you explain again?”
But or And
We use the word But a bit to often than we should. The word but excludes things from each other; ”This BUT this”, while and includes things; ”This AND that”.
When you hear the word but two things will happen; the first thing that was said before the but now has no meaning and whatever comes after you need to consider. ”You are good at handstands but you still have a lot to work on”. All of a sudden that first part doesn’t mean so much anymore, right? And what does it really mean that I have still have a lot to work on?
Now switch the but for an and and suddenly it feels more including; ”You are good at handstans and you still have a lot to work on”. That felt a little bit better, right? You can hear that you are good and at the same time look forward to becoming even better!
One or was it Me?
Who are those One you hear people talk about? When you say One you generalize to make it seem like it’s something everyone thinks or does, which you don’t have a clue about. So dare to stand up for what you are beliving. Say me or I instead of One.
Don’t say what you want others to not do. Instead tell them what you want them to do. Not is a word that is hard for the brain to process, because it doesn’t exists. To realize what the thing we shouldn’t do is we first need to think about it.
The classical example; Do not think about a pink elephant. For the brain to understand what it should not think about it first needs to think about it and that was what you were not supposed to do…right?
As a coach I try to consider this.
”Straighen your arms” insted of ”Don’t bend your arms”
”Stop in this position” instead of ”Don’t go any further than this”
Now it’s your turn
These where some Word-hacks that I find important and interesting. There are of course so many more and if you got any examples you are welcome to share. Now remember these and I hope you have some use for them.